How clearly we see our mothers inevitably affects how clear we can see ourselves.
Mother Daughter Mapping
Tell me if you can relate:
You feel emotionally responsible for other people.
You feel enormous guilt if you set boundaries or do not meet your mother (or family’s) expectations.
You find your own needs being sidelined and your own voice being silenced in relationships (with your mother, siblings, partners).
You don’t even know what you feel or need sometimes.
You want to understand yourself more deeply and to not repeat the emotional patterns of your family in your present-day relationships.
Your mother’s pattern of behavior causes you emotional harm. You don’t understand it. You don’t know what to do about it.
You are looking for a different way to relate to your own mother that does not include mother-blaming or estrangement (unless it has to) but that also honors your needs in the relationship.
You would love to see your own mother and grandmother through a different lens.
We can only break patterns we are aware of.
What is a Mother/Daughter Map?
A mother/daughter mapping session centers the emotional experience of the 3 primary women in your family lineage. You, (the daughter), your mother, grandmother, and even your great grandmother as we aim to understand their lives, circumstances, and emotional realities.
We do this through the lens of the patriarchy - understanding how this system of oppression impacted a woman’s right to pursue her own dreams, voice her needs, and know herself emotionally beyond the role of caretaker.
During the 2-hour mapping session, we will break down the emotional realities, expectations, and relationships of these women (including you).
What was expected of them as women in order for them to be seen, appreciated, or respected?
Who were they expected to emotionally support; meanwhile, who emotionally supported them?
How were their voices and needs seen, heard, and valued?
How did gender inequality affect the actualization of their own dreams and how much they knew themselves?
What behaviors did they employ in order to get their needs met?
What impact did this have on you?
This is a visual experience where I chart your map live (albeit virtually) in front of you. By doing so, we begin to see the patterns that get passed down through the generations. Patterns and themes like:
The voices of women being emotionally silenced.
The needs of women not being inquired after.
Unrealized potential and dreams.
The prioritizations of men’s needs.
The expectation that daughters meet the unclaimed needs of the mother.
The maladaptive behaviors of women as an attempt to get their needs met (i.e., controlling, critical, strict, dismissive, anger).
By clearly identifying the patterns and their repercussions, we open up your perspective of how you see your mother and how you see yourself. We also see the reason for some of the underlying patterns or conflicts you may currently experience in your own life now.
With the addition of Voxer coaching for 7-days, you get the time to process what you learn from our 2-day session and some quick hit coaching around how to change some of the dynamics in your relationship.
We chart a path to change for you - in how you relate to yourself and how you relate to others.
Together we will identify how you can be a cycle breaker in your family line.
This will impact all of your relationships and inspire you to more deeply honor your own truth and voice in the world.
How It Works
I offer a 2-hour virtual mapping session where we meet on Zoom.
I include a 7-day Voxer Coaching Package that gives you an opportunity to reflect, ask more questions, and learn how to integrate your takeaways from the session. Your coaching package begins the day after session.
After you make your purchase, reach out to me in my DMs of The Emotion Project to schedule your mapping session.
You will then receive the instructions for pre-work that involve gathering facts about your family (primarily the women), including the dates of their birth, # of siblings, age upon which they married or had children, and the gender limitations and expectations that defined their lives.
Even if you do not have all of this information, your perspective of your family and these women will guide us.
Reach out to me and send me a DM @TheEmotionProject for more information!
The option to add on longer term in-your-pocket Voxer coaching is available if you want help establishing new boundaries and centering your own needs more in your relationships.
