You wouldn’t be here if you weren’t already devoted to her.

Being clear on what is MOST important to you (when it comes to showing up for your daughter) can be a grounding tool in conflict and a way to re-focus yourself in every interaction with her.

I share how my non-negotiable devotion to my daughter’s well-being - and our relationship- helps me de-escalate conflict and downshift back into connection when I am exasperated, triggered, or stressed.

And why I believe making the relationship the most important thing sets her up for success in life.

As a culture, we often focus on cultivating “independence” in our children.  Yet in the dynamic, ever-changing years ahead, what will buoy your daughter THE MOST will be the strength of your attachment relationship.

I will break down why it is so important we “collect” our children from our culture on the daily.  And how we can nurture the relationship - in a way that supports her independence and peer relationships - but keeps her tethered to the most stable relationships in her life.

I also help you understand what helps our daughter feeI emotionally and psychologically close to us and how to weave in connection touchstones daily.

Your daughter needs space.

Not FROM you - but WITH you.

Space to express herself.

Space to have a bad day.

Space to fall apart.

Space to solve her own problems.

Space to have all her feelings.

How well you provide this space for her depends on how well you manage this space within yourself.

Jumping in to fix, correct, lecture, or teach can often collapse the space she needs and affects how she feels in relationship to us.

But what is our role?  As she gets older, this can become less clear.

This week I will break down the key ROLE you play in your daughter's life.

Understanding your role will answer the question "what does she need from me?" at every point in her life.

It will offer you the clarity of how to respond no matter what she brings to you.

We will unpack your reflexive responses to your daughter and explore ways of building your own capacity + confidence to be with her whenever she shares herself with you.

F*ck perfection.  Authenticity is where it’s at.  You don’t need to be a perfect example.  You need to be an authentic one.  

Our children want our authenticity!!! Even when it comes to our own needs, boundaries, and moods.

They don’t want us hiding behind the “role” of mother. We will explore what it looks like to be IN relationship with your daughter versus maintaining a parental role of authority and control.

We will explore the role that emotion plays in this - because even if we don’t share our feelings, our daughters pick up on them.  

NOTHING BUILDS TRUST like self-awareness + authenticity. We want our daughters to feel connected to us and to trust us.  And for that to happen, we must be real with them.

I share how we can do this in a way that takes responsibility for our own needs without passing on that responsibility to our daughters but still allows them to KNOW us and FEEL us.

And I break down why it is so vital for us to be authentic with our daughters with our own feelings, needs, and boundaries.

A lot of people talk about validation - and I will, too - but not enough people talk about mirroring.

We did it naturally when our daughters were infants.  But our daughters never outgrow the need for us to mirror them.  I help you see how she seeks out ‘being seen by you’ more often than you may realize….

I offer you a deep-dive summary on what mirroring is and why it is so vital to our daughter’s sense of SELF.

• How it helps her understand her feelings.

• How it helps her learn how to NAME her feelings.

• How it helps her feel connected to you.

• How it solidifies her sense of self - from something amorphous and unclear, to something solid and robust.

I break down what it looks like, what it sounds like, and how it is one of the first go-to communication skills everyone needs to have in their back pocket.  Being able to “mirror” means you don’t need the perfect response every time or to know exactly what to say.  Working on mirroring alone can be huge.

This is where so many issues can arise because it is something that a daughter needs MOST - to feel heard and to be understood.

And it can be confusing for a mother because we feel like we ARE listening to our daughters, yet why is it that our daughters don’t feel heard or understood? 

But so much of listening comes down to our RESPONSE.

There is skill involved, which is why I want to teach you HOW to respond to your daughter  - precisely what she needs from you - so that she walks away feeling like you “get” her. 

I break down the CORE responses that will help your daughter feel HEARD and UNDERSTOOD by you every time she speaks.

I will also talk about the impact that our typical responses have on our daughter - and the relationship - even though they are so well-intentioned. 

With my help, you will see the subtle ways you might create distance or shut her down accidentally and how we can turn that around in a heartbeat.

You will learn how to REPLACE old patterns and impulses with SIMPLE yet powerful responses that will not only help her feel understood but also STRENGTHEN her.

AND I will give you a checklist for what to reflect on and consider in case she ever does say "You just never understand me."  That way you are not left in the dark of "what do I do now?"

I break down the #1 thing that wreaks the most havoc on a mother/daughter relationship.

This is how the relationship starts to feel like egg shells and minefields, where her “mood controls the house,” or where you never know when she’s going to blow up at you.  We can avoid this - or if it’s already occurring, we can heal this.

This talk goes beyond mirroring and dives more into how we “hold” the story of who our daughters are inside of ourselves.

You will gain a strong grasp of what it means to see your daughter accurately - and why it is so essential for her sense of self AND your relationship.  I will help you understand what to pay attention to so that you CAN see her clearly and know her.  

Once you understand how far this can throw your relationship off track, you will be even more dedicated + diligent about holding onto these powerful perspectives.

Buckle your seatbelt because she’s going to have a lot of them. And they are going to be intense, unpredictable, sometimes very overwhelming.

Her thoughts and feelings will be different from yours. They are going to push your buttons. They are going to overwhelm you, confuse you, and have you slamming doors right back.

What I offer you are the robust perspectives and mental framework that you can hold onto (and sometimes grip tightly) as you steer through the toughest, roughest storms ahead.  I break down the value of letting your daughter express ALL sides of herself - even the sassy backtalk, door slamming, and darker moments of self-expression.

This is a deep-dive training on emotions and how to understand them and respond to them so that your daughter develops insight and emotional intelligence.

There are going to be ruptures in the connection between you and your daughter.

You are going to lose your sh*t once in a while (or once a week).

But each time we repair, the trust and the bond between you gets stronger and more unbreakable.

I share what I call “the golden thread” of connection and how to keep this thread strong and unbroken throughout your daughter’s life.  

I want to teach you the powerful tools of how to make a thorough repair with your daughter that goes BEYOND apology to strengthen the connection.

I teach you how to get better at tracking yourself and tracking her so that you know when a repair is needed and when a repair is complete.

You will understand the role that shame plays in relationship ruptures and unhinged emotions.

Learn how to walk your child (and yourself) back from shame into reconnection.  And learn how to apply and weave in key communication & relationship skills into a thorough repair.

Trust ties everything together. 

Everything from her feelings, to seeing her accurately, to managing our own anxiety, to truly understanding and honoring who she is. 

It comes down to trust.

And when we are wired toward fear or uncertainty, or control and authority, it can be really hard to feel a sense of safety and trust in ourselves and in our relationships.

I talk about the power of trust in a relationship - the impact that it has when a child feels trusted vs. when a child feels controlled.

You will have the opportunity to unpack your OWN experience of being trusted growing up and experientially explore what it would feel like to trust your daughter vs. being centered in fear.

This includes trusting our daughter’s ability to struggle, feel all the feelings, solve her own problems, and find her path.  

We will also discuss the difference between your clarity and your fear so that you can know which part of yourself to listen to and trust as well.