Once we are out of survival, it’s time to become more intentional.
Tell me if you can relate:
You are determined AF to not screw up your relationship with your daughter.
You know all too well that it’s not an easy relationship to get back on the tracks once it’s off.
But motherhood, work, and daily stress makes it feel like you are constantly in survival - when what you really set out to be was intentional.
You want to support all her feelings but you also don’t want to raise an entitled, selfish, disrespectful child who is “overly sensitive” and doesn’t know how to buck up.
You also don’t want to “say the wrong thing” and so there are conversations you are avoiding.
When do you take the lead and be the authority? When is action appropriate and when it is time to self-soothe?
After all, you don’t want your own “stuff” to invade the relationship and you want to raise her so she’s resilient.
Perhaps you already feel frustrated with her . The tension between you is growing. (So is her attitude and resistance.)
Or perhaps you are worried about her mental health.
Wherever you are in the phase of motherhood with your daughter, I wanted to create a space where you could get the support you needed.
Not to outsource your own wisdom, but to help you get more connected to your own.
Because I know how much you want this.
A strong and close relationship with your daughter.
I know how important she is to you.
I know you want to:
Be intentional in how you are raising her for life.
Be her ally and her confidante.
Believe her when she’s in pain - not feel dismissive inside yourself.
Care about her when she’s struggling - not irritated that she isn’t just ‘dealing.’
Regulate her - rather than try to control her.
And feel confident and present when you are in relationship with her.
Introducing…..
Mama Have Mercy is a group coaching container designed to offer focused support to mothers doing the deep emotional work of raising strong daughters — while doing their own personal growth and healing.
This is full blown support where you get:
1x Monthly Q&A coaching/guidance calls: you can ask me anything on these calls i.e., work through a conflict, a trigger, or a sticking point, get my feedback on an interaction, behavioral pattern, or family dynamic, and get support for what is being evoked in you by the relationship. (You get to post questions anonymously beforehand also!)
Bi-weekly “Get out of your head” telegram broadcasts: you can tell me anytime you’re frustrated, anxious, or getting in your head about how to “deal” with your daughter and I'll respond with an in-depth voice message to help you instantly shift out of it. I will offer you guidance on how to understand what she is needing, to see her clearly, while also helping you understand yourself more deeply, to get more in touch with your own needs + feelings, and step into the transformation that is being asked of you.
Community Led Facebook Group: there is something so powerful about having a safe space to share and celebrate your biggest wins and ask for support when you need it. The energy that comes with being in a community like this is EVERYTHING.
Add-On 1:1 Calls (optional) If something comes up that is too personal to process in a group, you can always book a 1:1 call with me on the side.
You have the option to select 6 month or 12 month support.
This program is designed to empower who you are as a mother. To strengthen you from the inside out. I am here to ground you, pour into you, steady you, and help you see yourself and your daughter clearly (in the best way) — so you can grow into the mother your daughter needs while also building a deeper relationship with yourself and getting your needs met in life, also.
Hi, I’m Trish.
And I know all about wanting to do this right.
Right by her - my first born.
And her - my second born - because the universe sent me two.
I didn’t grow up with a close relationship with my mother. I had no modeling for how to nurture or what it meant to be “emotionally close” to someone. I didn’t know the “right things to say” or how to comfort someone when they were crying.
But my own journey of healing and being a therapist for the last 15+ years reconnected me to my natural ability to nurture and connect. As I became more in tune with myself, I became more in tune with others. In some ways, I feel like I learned how to love.
And after spending years counseling mother/daughter relationships, I have come to understand exactly what daughters need most from us. And being rooted in these perspectives will shape your responses and help you connect with your own heart-led instincts.
I also know all too well the level of self-awareness, self-soothing, and self-discipline required to hold back all my own sh*t so that I don’t harm my daughters.
And the truth is, I don’t always succeed.
I’ve not been a perfect mother - believe me.
I am just as flawed and wounded as anyone else.
And I’ve not had children with easy temperaments.
It has been messy + desperate over here at times.
It was honestly devastating when I realized just how difficult it would be to mother well when my own childhood wounds were getting triggered faster than I could heal them.
That is why this program has the word “mercy” in it. Because we must have mercy on ourselves as we endeavor to learn what we were not shown, to give what we did not receive, and to build capacity for emotions we ourselves never got to feel.
I know how hard this work is.
I know how painful it is - to confront ourselves, our own behaviors, and to actually allow ourselves to feel more, when some of those feelings are RAW AF.
What you get from me is over two decades of attachment expertise - what our kids need, what you need, and why - and the insight that will quickly flip your thinking on its head and get you centered back into connection and relationship with your daughter.
This is no b.s. support - designed for on-going, in-your-pocket transformation and support. We don’t just want the insight - we want the integration of these new perspectives and communication skills.
During your time inside of Mama Have Mercy you are going to:
get to the bottom of the attitudes, outbursts, and behaviors that your daughter is currently exhibiting and learn immediately how to start shifting the dynamic.
understand what she is needing from you at all times and be deeply supported while you develop the skills that were never taught, shown, or modeled for you.
get really clear on the kind of relationship you want to have with your daughter and the sh*t that’s getting in the way of you creating exactly that.
have mercy on yourself because I will insist that you do. Yes, we are going to do hard things and feel hard things, but you are also going to start loving yourself and accepting yourself more than you ever have before. Because if you can’t have more compassion, more acceptance, and more love for all sides of yourself - how on earth can you accept and love all sides of her?
stop getting in your effing head when it comes to worrying so much about how she’s going to “turn out” and future tripping about her current behavior.
become way more attuned to yourself, your own needs, limits, feelings, and instincts, and as a result of tapping into your own truth, you will become way more attuned to her.
see your blind spots, your projections, your anxiety, and your propensity to take her behavior personally, so you can start meeting her exactly where she is.
awaken that beautiful heart of yours and free it from the clutches of fear and control, shame and rigidity.
The more vulnerable you can be, obviously the more you will get out of this. At the same time, you do NOT have to overly expose yourself. You will pre-submit questions for the live calls (so the onus won’t be on you to raise your hand or speak up) and if you prefer no live coaching, we can keep my feedback and guidance to the parameters of Telegram. You can also post anonymously.
Everyone in the group will be able to hear my responses to your submissions. This means you all benefit from my coaching to all of you. I have experienced this and I can tell you - it’s amazing - because you get to just press “play” and gain insight, new perspectives, and heart-opening shifts from the voice memos I leave each of you. You will absolutely find each other’s struggles relatable and will learn so much from each other.
My intention is this: for this to be a community of mothers who are devoted to growth, healing, and raising their daughters intentionally. I commit to ensuring this is a safe and compassionate space where shame, grief, and guilt can be named and moved through without judgement.
Would it be better for me to invest in therapy?
I will always recommend people invest in on-going therapy because it is a sacred process that tends to the deepest parts of ourselves that never got attention and allows us an opportunity to be reparented. At the same time, where I find therapy lacking is the day-to-day integration of the shifts that occur within the therapy hour. As humans, we tend to slide back in-between sessions, back into old patterns of thinking, old ways of being, and old styles of coping and self-protection. By the time integration occurs, five years could pass, your daughter will be in college, and you’ll be wondering why there’s so much distance.
I believe we need to get to the heart of the issue now and support you in integrating the new perspectives, insights, and shifts into your dynamic with your daughter now. And because of my 15+ years as a therapist and mother/daughter coach, you get that expertise and insight in your pocket all month.
Rest assured: we will do deep work together in this program.
You will gain incredible insight into yourself.
And you are going to see results when THIS is the type of guidance you immerse yourself into.
How do I get more information to know if this right for me?
Start by filling out the application and letting me know more about what you are currently struggling with and where you are hoping to get support. You will be able to ask questions on the application that I will then reach out and answer for you. If you are on IG, you are also able to reach out to me @TheEmotionProject and we can talk it out there.
Ok, but how vulnerable will I have to be?
Why Learn from Me
Because if there’s anything I’m good at, it’s connection.
It’s my super power. It’s at the heart of all my training and experience as a therapist. I know what builds connection and what strains it. I know how to make that connection so strong - overflowing, in fact - that no conflict or strife can break it. In fact, I know how to turn conflict into a strengthening experience rather than a destabilizing one for the relationship.
I am also really good at seeing people and patterns. I can see who people are (the best of them) and what they are needing from the relationship. And I can see unconscious patterns that are being played out in real time. I use this skill to help you see yourself, your daughter, and your family dynamics more clearly so you can get out of your head and back into your heart - where I know you want to be when you are relating with her.
We all have stuff that comes up in our relationships. I’m here to help you identify how your own stuff is showing up with your daughter and how to grow alongside her and show up the way you always intended to.
I want you to walk away from this program feeling different and responding differently in your relationship.
I believe there is a way we can support our child’s developing self, combat cultural influences, help them solve problems, and maintain a strong sense of connection through all stages of their lives.
As a teacher, I get straight to the heart of things. I am here to offer a very compassionate, warm-hearted space to lend you insight, support your process, and help you walk away with confidence and clarity about how to best nurture yourself, your daughter, and your connection to each other.
