Helping mothers + daughters find renewed trust + reconnection.
You’re both hurting.
You don’t feel like you are being heard.
Mom feels like she is being constantly rejected or blamed. She’s not feeling cared for. But she is also trying her best. She doesn’t know how to do it any differently. She feels like she is walking on egg shells. This is not how their relationship used to be. She feels like she doesn’t know how to mother an adult daughter. What she hears is the word “boundary” but what she feels is the distance.
Daughter is frustrated. Years of not feeling understood has built up a wall. She doesn’t know how to help her mother understand what she needs. She feels guilty that she isn’t able to meet her mother’s needs. She tries to communicate but doesn’t feel like her mother listens or changes. She would like a closer relationship with her mother but doesn’t know how to make that happen.
Hi, I’m Trish.
And I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be this way.
Trust me. I’ve seen it. Both as a therapist for 15+ years and a certified Mother and Daughter Coach.
I’ve seen years of tension and resentment between a mother and daughter dissolve quickly when focused, loving attention is placed on the relationship.
I’ve thought to myself, “why hasn’t this happened sooner?”
We try to figure these things out on our own but sometimes without guidance, those attempts just spiral into conflict.
But imagine if it could be different.
Imagine if you could enjoy each other again.
Imagine if you could trust each other again?
To be relaxed in each other’s company, instead of walking on egg shells or burning with quiet resentment and tension.
That is why I’m here.
I’m here to give you back the relationship that means so much to you. To offer a space for healing and untangling the threads of miscommunication. I want you to help you both truly see and understand each other - and to have a sense of belonging again in each other’s lives.
Mother + Daughter Coaching
Therapeutic coaching sessions that support you both in having the necessary conversations to move your relationship forward. Together we deepen your understanding of one another, strengthen your connection, and find authentic closeness again in your relationship.
3x 90min Sessions - $999
4x 90min sessions - $1200
How It Works
Complete the Application: Reach out here and let me know how things are in your relationship right now.
Initial Phone Consultation: We will then set up a phone consultation where I speak with each of you separately to assess what is happening in your relationship and what is possibly causing conflict. We get clear on what you would like to focus on.
Schedule Your Sessions: We will assess how frequently you would like to set up the sessions - weekly or more closely together in an intensive-format.
How I Help:
Together we unpack hurtful moments or miscommunication that has occurred in your relationship. We give your relationship an opportunity to repair so that trust between you can be strengthened. Learning how to repair will also be central to our work as you will not always “get it right” in your new relationship.
I help both of you really see each other. This means unpacking projections and rewriting old narratives. This means seeing your mother as a woman, separate from the lens of your unmet needs. This means seeing your daughter as person separate from you - not as a source for your own needs nor a source of rejection.
I help you both get clear about what you are wanting and needing from this relationship not just from the “boundary” perspective, but from a place that honors both of your needs and voices in the relationship.
This is not about taking the long walk of shame - although it might be a painful journey at times. It’s about learning. It’s about learning how to listen and learning how to respond in a new way with a new language. There is a lot of compassion available here for the new emotional language mothers are being asked to learn in order to meet the emotional needs of their daughter. I help you learn this language.
I help you both get better at feeling connected. There is a lot of compassion available here for the daughter who must learn how to open again to her mother’s love - imperfect as it may be. Both of you may be learning how to trust each other again.
I help you identify your emotional needs and learn how to meet them (and communicate them) in new ways. Together we can understand places where you might get activated and pulled back into old ways of responding - and help you recover more quickly.
Co-create the kind of relationship you both deeply long for.
Ok, I have more questions.
Why are the sessions 90 minutes?
I offer 90-120min session times to give us ample time to both unpack important feelings and resolve them. I ensure there is enough time in each session for both of you to feel heard and for conversations to be started and completed.
I believe that when we put our focus and attention on something in a concentrated and dedicated way, change occurs. What we focus on changes.
What if we want our sessions to be more of an “intensive”?
I work with mothers and daughters to customize the experience they are looking for. I offer 3- or 4- session packages (90min. each) that you can schedule when you wish.
How many sessions will we need?
Every person and mother-daughter couple are different, and it is hard to assess how long your work will take as it is dependent on how quickly you can facilitate the change you desire. However, I am very quick to get to the heart of the matter and to help you both slow down and truly start to listen to and understand each other from a new perspective. I am also skills-oriented where I want you both to understand how to respond to each other in a way that supports both of you feeling heard.
Is it possible to add on Voxer support?
Yes. I provide Voxer coaching for mothers or daughters who wish to have me in their back pocket to help integrate the work and have a touchstone in-between sessions. Voxer coaching can be added on a monthly basis. I support mothers in continuing to break old response patterns, shift their perspective in the moment, and continue practicing the new communication skills they are wanting to lead with in the relationship. I also help daughters work through the emotions that can arise as they also practice boundary-setting, emotional differentiation, and moving past any anxieties that make it difficult to show up in the relationship in a new way. The Voxer add-on is $399.
How will this coaching in-between sessions (via Voxer) be helpful?
I find it helpful for both mother and daughter to have me as a touchstone in-between sessions to continue integrating the takeaways from the coaching sessions. While our time in session will undoubtedly be powerful, it is the time in-between sessions where we can slide back into old ways of thinking and reacting.
The voice messaging between sessions also offers you a place to vent and to process further what is coming up for you in the session. It is a place for you to feel heard and supported while you are learning how to hear each other. And other times, it is to ask more questions or get more coaching around things coming up for you that are hard to move past. I will hold your feelings, while also gently bringing you back to center and back to your intention around the relationship. You will have my help uncovering your own needs from the feelings that are being evoked. And you will have my support shifting out of negative mindsets or perspectives that are keeping you locked in the same patterns of interpreting and reacting to your mother/daughter dynamic.
What beloved clients have shared:
I just wanted to drop you a note to thank you for putting me and my daughter back together again. We have really grown in trust and respect for each other and we couldn’t have done it without you. Because of unforeseen family circumstances, I lived with my daughter and her husband for two months to help them through a difficult time. My daughter and I both thought of you and how thankful we were that you put us back together again so we were able to be there for each other in a very scary time. We just love you.— client
“Your support of us has meant so much to both of us. I honestly could never thank you enough for the gift of relationship you are giving us.” — client
Thank you again for yet another insightful and meaningful session. Each time you bring us to a conversation that needs to happen that moves aside the blocks and brings us closer. — client
“You have been so most impactful in our lives and relationships, I’m forever grateful.” - client
“We are both extremely grateful for your professional and experienced guidance through our emotional minefield. You felt like an invested partner in seeing us into a healthy, trusting and more loving relationship. You were fair, never judgmental, and always supportive to both of us. We just can't say enough good things about our experience working with you.” - client
“Your guidance has been so impactful it feels hard to capture in words.” - client
You are perfect for this if you:
Are genuinely curious and ready to learn what is needed to make your relationship feel better to both of you.
Are genuinely ready to listen to one another.
Are genuinely curious and ready to understand each other’s emotional experience - even if it differs from or contradicts your own.
Are genuinely curious and ready to understand yourself more, including understanding your own emotional needs and how to meet them.
Are genuinely invested in growing as a person, in creating a roadmap for emotional empowerment, and generational healing.
There is a way back to each other.
Together we will find it.
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(I promise not to inundate you with useless sales emails but rather honest reflections and insights about the mother/daughter relationship.)