Once we are out of survival, we have space to become intentional.
Tell me if you can relate:
Parenting got overwhelming and all thoughts and plans of “what you would teach your child” flew out the window.
It’s hard to find time & space to ask yourself the important questions about what your intentions are as a parent - how you want to prepare her, resource her, and strengthen her sense of self.
You wonder how you can teach her because she stops listening the minute you try. She knows the second you go into teacher mode.
You worry sometimes that you won’t be around to guide her through life while she grows up.
You have validated her feelings for years but you want to know what else you can do to keep your relationship strong.
Hi, I’m Trish.
And I know all about wanting to do this right.
Wanting to do right by her. My first born.
And also, her. My second born. Because the universe sent me two.
As a therapist for the last 12+ years, working primarily with women and mother/daughter relationships, I know how important it is to us that we have strong relationships with our daughters.
I know how much we want to resource them and guide them. To give them a non-negotiable sense of their self-worth. To give them the reassurance and internal strength that could help them through difficult times.
But let’s be real - our daughters don’t want to listen to us. And this moment arrived sooner than any of us were prepared for. They take in what we model, but they don’t necessarily want to take in what we teach.
But I believe there is a way for us to have a strong and positive influence on our girls, a way to lend our wisdom and guidance without lecturing. And I am absolutely certain there is a way to maintain a strong relationship with our daughters through all the robust growth periods of their life.
COMING SOON……
Letters to My Daughter
A monthly writing group designed for mothers who always wanted to write their daughter(s) a letter but never have the time. Except it’s not one letter, it’s six, and we sit down and do it together.
Six beautiful themes, six beautiful sentiments.
Six sets of WRITING PROMPTS that are evocative and thought-provoking.
GET CLEAR on what you want to teach and model as a parent.
CONNECT with your own wisdom.
Learn how to use LETTER WRITING as a powerful offering to your daughter.
The Logistics:
Monthly Gatherings (Online): We will meet 1x/month virtually for 90min. Meetings occur Monday 730pmCST. Together we get centered, get clear, and begin writing.
Evocative Writing Prompts: Get in touch with what you really want to say to your daughter and walk away with six beautiful letters that you offer freely to her at the time of your choosing.
Email Support: Get your questions answered and be coached through the different challenges, feelings, and blocks that may arise in letter writing.
Continued Meeting: You can always re-enroll when your 12-weeks is up and continue having this dedicated time to write your daughter. I will continue to provide new themes and prompts that provide a launching off point.
This group is open-enrollment and can be joined at any time.
Questions? Email me - Trish@TheEmotionProject.com
Why Letters?
I have always sensed that letter writing would be an important medium in which I would communicate with my daughters. That during tumultuous periods of their own life, when they would not be so keen on listening to me, I wanted them to have access to my guidance if they wanted it. And I knew they might take my guidance in more readily if they had the option to read it in private.
The letters also reassure me that I have left something behind for my girls. That if something were to ever happen to me, they would have something concrete to hold onto. My voice forever there reassuring them, guiding them, loving them.
I have developed 6 themes to organize your letter writing for your daughter. Although of course they will be thought-provoking, these letters are not meant to take a ton of time. The prompts are here to guide you from start-to-finish and to help make each letter concise, focused, and clear. And the coaching is here to help you if you get stuck.
The writing prompts I provide you offer a starting-off place for letter writing. (If you are feeling nervous about the writing aspect, never fear. The prompts are here to guide you and your written responses are meant to be written in letter form and directly offered to your daughter.)
These letters are meant to be something you freely* give your daughter when it feels appropriate (*i.e., no strings attached) and something they can choose to read in private during different periods of time in their life. The letters do not have to be given all at once. You can write to your daughter as she is now (preteen, teen) or for who she will be (early adulthood).
The writing of these letters will truly be a gift not only to your daughter but to yourself as I encourage you to share your unique wisdom, life lessons, and life experiences. Of course the prompts I provide you - while thoughtful and intentional - are 100% free to be adapted. I am here to give you a solid starting off point. I know that we will inspire each other in our group discussions and even more ideas will surface.
The Letters
In sometimes surprising, unexpected ways, the writing prompts will guide you deeper into the support you want to provide, the love you long to share, and the wisdom you have living within you.
Letter 1: Unconditional
Letter 2: What You See in Her
Letter 3: Perspective, Meaning, and Cultivating a Growth Mindset
Letter 4: Decision-Making, Self-Knowledge, & Listening to Herself
Letter 5: Nurturing Her Inner Voice
Letter 6: Reassurance for Hard Times
Why Learn from Me
At my core, I am a writer, but I have spent the last 12+ years as a therapist working with mother/daughter relationships and helping people feel more connected to themselves and others. My sense of connection is a guiding tool for me in my life and my work. It is also what I privilege more than anything else in my parenting.
From my years of experience, I understand what supports connection and what strains it. I have helped many mothers and daughters repair their relationship and it has taught me a great deal about what our daughters need from us.
I believe there is a way we can support our child’s highest self, combat cultural influences, help them solve problems, and maintain a strong sense of connection through all stages of their lives.
I also ask really good questions. So any of the writing prompts and coaching you receive are guaranteed to get you thinking (and feeling).
As a teacher, I get straight to the heart of things. I am here to offer a very compassionate, warm-hearted space to lend you insight, support your process, and help you walk away with a beautiful offering for your daughter(s).
6 months.
Emerge with more intention.
More clarity.
And six beautiful letters.
(Imagine how good that will feel.)