Once we are out of survival, we
have space to become intentional.
Parenting got overwhelming and all thoughts and plans of “what you would teach your child” flew out the window.
It’s hard to find time & space to ask yourself the important questions about what your intentions are as a parent - how you want to prepare her, resource her, and strengthen her sense of self.
You wonder how you can teach her because she stops listening the minute you try. She knows the second you go into teacher mode.
You worry sometimes that you won’t be around to guide her through life while she grows up.
You have validated her feelings for years but you want to know what else you can do to keep your relationship strong.
Tell me if you can relate:
Hi, I’m Trish.
And I know all about wanting to do this right.
Wanting to do right by her. My first born.
And also, her. My second born. Because the universe sent me two.
As a therapist for the last 12+ years, working primarily with women and mother/daughter relationships, I know how important it is to us that we have strong relationships with our daughters.
I know how much we want to resource them and guide them. To give them a non-negotiable sense of their self-worth. To give them the reassurance and internal strength that could help them through difficult times.
But let’s be real - our daughters don’t want to listen to us. And this moment arrived sooner than any of us were prepared for. They take in what we model, but they don’t necessarily want to take in what we teach.
For this reason, I knew letters would be an important medium for me and my girls. That during tumultuous periods of their own life, I knew they might might take my guidance in more readily if they had the option to read it in private.
The letters also reassure me that I have left something behind for my girls. That if something were to ever happen to me, they would have something concrete to hold onto. My voice forever there reassuring them.
I knew I couldn’t be alone in wanting to write my daughters letters. I decided to create a space where this could happen. Where mothers could have a guided starting-off point devote a small amount of time to a powerful offering and where that could happen and to make it easy for mothers who sometimes struggle to find the words or who don’t know where to start.
Mama Have Mercy presents….
Letters to Your Daughter
A 6-week guided program that provides space for you to GET CLEAR on what you want to teach and model as a parent, what to FOCUS on so that your daughter maintains a solid sense of self (and a solid relationship with you), and guides you in the process of LETTER WRITING as a powerful offering to your daughter.
Our 6 Weeks Together Will Include:
Writing Prompts: Get in touch with what you really want to say to your daughter and walk away with six beautiful letters that you offer freely to her at the time of your choosing.
Weekly Group Coaching Calls: Get clear on the intention behind each letter and be coached through the different challenges, feelings, and blocks that may arise around letter writing.
Introvert Hours: Submit questions in-between coaching calls and receive responses via a video recording.
Letter Writing Made Easy
I have developed 6 themes to organize your letter writing for your daughter. These letters are not meant to take a ton of time. The prompts are here to guide you from start-to-finish and to help make each letter concise, focused, and clear.
The writing prompts I provide you offer a starting-off place for letter writing. If you are feeling nervous about the writing aspect, never fear. The prompts are here to guide you and your written responses can be what you offer your daughter without turning them into letter form.
These letters are meant to be something you freely* give your daughter when it feels appropriate (*i.e., no strings attached) and something they can choose to read in private during different periods of time in their life. The letters do not have to be given all at once. You can write to your daughter as she is now (preteen, teen) or for who she will be (early adulthood).
The writing of these letters will truly be a gift not only to your daughter but to yourself as I encourage you to share your unique wisdom, life lessons, and life experiences. Of course the prompts I provide you - while thoughtful and intentional - are 100% free to be adapted. I am here to give you a solid starting off point. I know that we will inspire each other in our group discussions and even more ideas will surface.