Your power is your ability to feel.
But your emotions keep you stuck in a disempowered place.
Instead of setting How can we use the emotions that take you down, that have you feeling “sensitive,” “shaky,” or “full of anger” all the time, and instead use your ability to feel to develop a sense of rootedness, clarity, self-assuredness, and connectedness in your life? How we can start to make decisions and make real progress in your life and in your relationships?
Knowing how to respond in relationships and changing how we respond can be a really daunting task.
We all have really habitual ways of responding to certain dynamics in our relationships.
Nothing is often more activating than the people we are closest to. And those dynamics can bring up some of the most intolerably vulnerable emotions. It makes sense that we would REACT quickly because of how STRONG the feelings are.
Our impulse may be to reject the other person + withdraw.
Lash out or steel ourselves with anger.
Manage the other person’s needs and feelings as a way of avoiding the scary conflict.
Or explain ourselves to death to people who never seem to hear us.
These cycles keep us stuck. Stuck in a kind of turmoil.
We end up trapped in a painful state of disconnection with the people we love.
or
We feel trapped by the expectations or needs of other people at the real cost of our own happiness.
I believe our impulsive behaviors come from a disempowered mindset and when acted on, reinforce that disempowered state.
What would it be like to respond to your relationship dynamics from an empowered state?
Who even are you in an empowered state?
A woman who takes responsibility for what she wants and needs, what she is capable of, and who chooses to grab control of the only thing she can control - her own life, her own reactions, her own needs and desires.
Or as Mary Oliver wrote, “to save the only life she can save.”